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Why Stephen A. Smith Can’t Win When It Comes To the Illogical Negro

October 17, 2025UncategorizedBlack Community, Black Culture, Black men, Black Women, Jasime Crockett, Stephen A Smithjjermane80

@The Breakfast Club

I’m writing this post because I’m so upset with you so-called black men. I understand why black women (and no I will not say all), black women will form like Voltron to come to the defense of Rep. Jasmine Crockett from Texas; but you black men coming at Stephen A for critiquing her immature, termagant, and ghetto malfeasance behavior when she speaks about President Trump, even though she comes from a privilege and private school background and could care less about the black community She called Trump a “Nepo” baby while she’s always had a silver spoon in her mouth. In the words of Wesley Snipes from the 1991 movie, New Jack City, “I wasn’t always born with a silver spoon in my mouth, Miss Hawkins”. Jasmine is playing you gullible fools while breathing historical stereotypes about black women: loud-mouthed, unfiltered, and here recently, this ‘Boss B*tch’ attitude. But you to black dudes who are defending her, Negro you look WEAK because you’re scared to confront those black women! However, because I know y’all, NO I’m not a Trump supporting her and it really doesn’t have to do with him. This has more to do about the IMAGE and the behavior of Miss Crockett which is something you Negroes seem to forget, yet are absolutely comfortable with.

For the record, this not the first time I defended Stephen A. Smith because I wrote an article about him on this blog over ten years ago when he had to ‘apologize’ to feminist, Michelle Beadle. Beadle violated social media company guidelines when she verbally attacked Smith during the Ray Rice domestic violence scenario, but ESPN did not suspend her for her actions. I said back then, when First Take was ascending once Stephen A became a regular alongside Skip Bayless on the show, SAS should have finished his contract and went independently, because at that time, you Negroes were supporting SAS because we all know Beadle was wrong. Nonetheless, after his suspension, SAS returned and his platform, ESPN First Take, which continued to grow exponentially in ratings as far as sports talk/debate shows goes in the morning. Despite the success, here come y’all Negroes mad when he critiqued black athletes for their behavior; which is actually a part of his job.

You Negroes formed a narrative around SAS which is typical when a successful black man, (really any black person), criticizes so-called black Americans about our broken culture and how we celebrate degeneracy over dignity. You did it with Bill Cosby when he was the blueprint to black successful entertainers. Let me transition to why I’m defending SAS against some of the same people he’s aligned with, which are Black Greek fraternity, SAS made a mistake by questioning or critiquing a Soro: one Jasmine Crockett. I won’t get into the black fraternity nonsense, but I find it funny how Tiffany Cross and Angela Rye, had the largest voices to make you docile black men come to the defense of Jasmine Crockett.

So according to you educated Negresses, the black man has to bow to your degree’s and your ability to be chosen (over your own men), in certain jobs? I’m speaking as a blue collar dude and I’ve seen black women do things that black men could never get away with. But you’re so oppressed? You broads know this. This is the case with Tiffany Cross and Angela Rye. Two bougie, Color Purple feminists, who only deal with weak men who worship them because of their hue or skin color. The fact they couldn’t address what SAS said, but they only focused on the fact he addressed a black woman about her behavior and rhetoric. This lets me know that women in certain positions and even in the ghetto, black women believe not only do they think they’re better than black men socially, they believe (black man) you are their slaves. Check it. SAS has bent over backwards to salute black women (including his daughters and his sisters), SAS has been your HARPO! See, you black men aren’t getting it. Black women have had this anti-black man, and you don’t measure up mind control over many of y’all like Deebo. As a Black women have been spewing “Black ain’t shit,” rhetoric for almost 50 years, and being a ‘Real Man’ is we’re supposed to take it? No! This is why you have Tiffany Cross, Angela Rye, and countless others (most of them are weak ass Negroes like Willie D, D.L. Hughley, Roland Martin, and you busters online), who are coming at SAS because he was bold enough to call out Miss Crockett? On her behavior we’ve all have seen? Stop it. Again, I totally disagreed with SAS when it came to Kyrie Irving during Co-Vid, nevertheless, I can separate between the two. I know some of you Negroes will think I’m “Pro Trump” or some black conservative. No. I read books and y’all are the only ones being tricked.

I would go deeper, but I know we live in a time when people are moved by social media and the old news. Still, for you race bait black folks because you’re doing what the ‘hidden hand’ in the middle wants you to do. Black men, most of these black women who are cosigning this are letting you know how famous, how influential, or how much money you have, they hate you. They hate your success and they hate who you are. Wake up black men!

There is a distinction in the black community were we have blacks Americans who have a logical blueprint, verses those who might, but to stay ‘down’ with a destructive culture. I’m not saying I’m a SAS supporter and again, I hated how he targeted Kyrie Irving. However, when someone says something correct, especially when a black man critiques a black woman, you Negroes are upset? I get the Negro females being upset, but you brothers? It only shows how y’all have been trained like a slave

Black women know what it is. They love symbolism over substance and many of you black men do as well. Sadly, you’d rather your woman be your VOICE. Something is wrong Son, smh.

Salute to the ladies, but fuck you bitches and weak ass dudes!

Black Male Misogynist, Now?

November 10, 2024UncategorizedBlack Celebrities, Black Community, Black Culture, Black menjjermane80

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Look at them, LOOK! Are these the males we’re supposed to follow? Sorry to all you frats or Soros saying ‘Big Brother ALL-MIGHTY’; that’s why never pledged. Get mad and shut up, lol. You SCHOOL DAZE NEGROES got exposed during this past election. Let me get back to my topic. There’s new ‘word speak’ going on when men; especially black men, have a opinion or a disagreement with the cultural norm. Other races, I’m not talking to you. But I will address white folk only because your women have manipulated and socialized black women into believing feminist talking points.

Naturally, women are followers, we know this. However, when BW start spewing white feminist talking points? We have a problem, May Day my ass, lol. When as black men did we start using white feminist talking points? It started with “Toxic Masculinity”, then it slipped down to sexist, fascist, and now “Misogynist? Are Negroes seeing the agenda going on here? As a Gen X-er, I came up noticing how we as a people came up. I was very involved in our culture so when I speak on black issues, I know what I’m talking about.

Back to this “Misogyny”

How can black men be “misogynists? Simple. Because THEY said so. Let’s define this creepy word, shall we? Misogynist: A misogynist is a person who hates, discriminates against, or shows prejudice towards women or girls. Misogyny is a type of sexism that can keep women in a lower social status than men. It can also refer to social systems or environments where women are treated with hostility or hatred.

When has it been in the history of Negro-dum, have black men hated black women? Don’t give me the hip-hop era when we called you a bish because you still had our babies, lol. Don’t give me slavery or any other excuses to blame ‘Jermaine’. Just look at our past election this week. Negro males basically bowed down to the black woman. Y’all seen it. Anyways, so if MALES have any criticism towards women, especially, black women, we’re this misogynist’s term? Meanwhile, others can disrespect us and we’re expected to take it? Naw. Double that, “HELL NAW!” We’ve seen the new face of ‘fascism’ with words directed towards the black man. But some of us already knew. I’ll return soon. Peace!

Black America, The New face of Racism; looks like your Mother

September 30, 2024UncategorizedBlack Community, Black Culture, Black men, Black Women, culture, life, Racism, relationshipsjjermane80

Now I know some of you Negroes and liberal white supporters will get mad at my title. I want you to. Black men, hold up, free-thinking black men have been silenced for decades. We had to go along to get alone (shout out Kwame Brown), just to stay in the good grace of our so-called women. Why do I say so-called? Its because there’s a book called, “Daughter’s of the Trade”, that I’ve discovered by way of a You Tuber named BGS. And based on the information in the book and being a study of black culture, it all lines up. It’s not that I hate black women’; because I don’t. Again, I have a black daughter, so what I say is what I would say to her, with no question. Black women, as a collective, don’t love black men; they tolerate us. They will tolerate us IF we have money, stability, and some good d**k! Now you might be thinking, “What’s wrong with that?” You can fit all of those “necessary standards,” and yet she’ll find another requirement you need to meet. F**k that.

Kamala Harris is exposing black women’s undying loyalty of being worshipped. Yes, I said worshipped. Not only by the Dr. Umar’s of the world who most of them has raised to be Charm’s blow pop simps; but utter worshippers who disregard what black women do only to get in the good graces of black women. Many of us have been socialized like this. Black men, who did you fight when someone spoke ill of your parents? Your Father or Mother?

Now let’s speak on Candace Owens. A smart, articulate, and logical Negro American (Sorry but not sorry, lol). Now know some of you Niggas from them the FBA cult-mindset will say, “She’s a Immigrant, lol” STFU. She born and raised in America, stop letting that guy fill your head with that bs. Anyways, Kamala has you Negroes supporting her because YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE SHES’S BLACK? ARE YOU SERIOUS? So her record as a DA doesn’t matter? How she can’t even answer a question logically, doesn’t matter? The fact she strategically locked up black parents, and you’re riding with her? You black women will choose your allegiance (some of you), to a black Greek sorority and some of you bs frat Niggas, (the Rickey Smiley’s of the world), to manipulate and systematically brainwash your own people? Free thinking black men AND women know what your game is. And we aren’t buying.

As for the new face of racism, you see it all the time. Black men have been punked in regard to speaking on this issue. We have to be silent. We have to bow to the black queen because we either want to be in some good p***y or we’re straight up scared. This is why black women on average likes thugs, what. Getting back to my point, racism has trickled down to the slave master’s wench, the black woman, Black women has been allotted power, prestige, and position, on the level that black men has never been advanced to be. And for some of you women who will read this and get in your feelings, “Shut the f**k up!” I told you; I don’t hate y’all, I just know y’all. The fact that a significant number of black women are supporting Kamala Harris is ridiculous. Not only that, but she’s also making y’all the symbol of ignorance and stupidity!

To further get into my point, what’s up with the harassment on social media? We see in sports and black men having social media platforms. I’m not going to bring up that girl balling for the Fever, lol. However, I will bring up how y’all hide behind every ‘ism’ (colorism, featurism, etc), just to be uplifted above your man on the social latter. It’s a damn shame. I will have a part two to this post, until I’ll fall back. Trust me, I have heat, lol. Now some of y’all might be like, “Don’t be talking about my Momma, lol”. No fool, I just know MOST OR MANY of you black males have been heavily influenced by your Momma, and p***y! So the fact I’m speaking on this topic makes you feel a certain way. I get it and I rebuke that p***y devil that’s in you! Seriously

We are in an age where women have not only power, but privilege. This includes black women. If black men say or act, (but its really what we say, lol), we are banned, thrown under the bus, black-balled and forced to apologize. Hell, we’re even told what women to date according to their race and she better be “dark-skinned” enough. Meanwhile, black women can date and choose whoever they want and will never feel the scrutiny from the black communitah. This election will let not only black men, but other Americans know where black women stand. “Why are you sweating black women?” Because bish y’all are our largest voting block and many – not all – are falling for the okey doke which is making y’all the new racists. See, Kamala didn’t make y’all the new racists; Negroes already knew but most were too scared to say something. I’m a freed slave.

Stop worshipping a woman who don’t respect you men. Peace!

The Jussie Smollett Propaganda ‘Living In A F’d Up World’

March 17, 2019UncategorizedBlack men, Civil Rights, Current Events, Equality Act, Gender Identity, LGBTQ, Politics, Race, Sexual Orientationjjermane80

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Apparently being classified as ‘black’ or being named after two continents (African-American) just doesn’t move the needle anymore for white guilt sympathizer’s, the history of racial oppression, and Civil Rights activists. Even though black males have been the overwhelming targets of injustice in this country which has lead to false imprisonment, lengthy prison sentencing compared to their white counterparts, racial profiling that often turns into police brutality, and white vigilantism long before MAGA hats ever existed. Now, black men have to worry about our SEXUAL IDENTITY as the new plight in our Martin Luther King efforts to overcome in 2019 against the dastardly, white supremacists. This is the narrative that Empire actor, Jussie Smollett, wanted you to believe. It’s not just Smollett who wants the world to believe that those who wear there sexual identities on their sleeves are being targeted for doing so, but others in the LGBTQ and black feminist/intersectionalist crowd are apart of this charade to separate one’s sexual preference or identity, from one’s blackness. As if our ancestors were ever told prior to being lynched by white vigilante’s that; “We’re lynching you Nigger cause we’s heard you’s a faggot!” Since Negro lynchings were often a sadistic public spectacle (which has never lead to anti-lynching legislation laws being passed btw), Smollett decided to take matters into his own hands by concocting his own public lynching involving two MAGA hat wearing white thugs, a noose, and a bottle of bleach.

From the first time I heard about the Smollett attack, I knew something just wasn’t right about it. When you consider the time (2 a.m.) and the inclement weather conditions (below zero) temperatures; its hard to imagine two bloodthirsty, Nigger fag-hating, Trump (white) supporters on the prowl at night during arctic weather conditions. Yes, I’m using the nefarious “F” word because the actor Smollett did in his alleged hate crime encounter that you would often see in some sleazy, fictitious, tabloid magazine such as The National Enquirer, Star or Globe. Now you would think being a public figure that the star actor would notify the Chicago Police after surviving the windy city beat down; instead, Smollett chose to keep in contact with his manager for the next few hours while adorning a noose around his neck to support his “lynching” ordeal. I guess this gave his manager time to alert Jussie’s Empire contemporaries -Taraji P. Henson, Terrence Howard, and creator/director Lee Daniels – and the liberal media as they were in go mode taking to their social media accounts to express their outrage and offer their deepest condolences. Henson, one the shows main characters who plays the strong, boisterous, “Cookie Lyons”, while posting on The Gram wishing the best for Smollett who she affectionately calls “Her Baby” was also very passionate about any fans of Jussie or of the show (Empire) to download his new song, F.U.W., to make it go platinum(?). The outpour of support continued to flood social media timelines with the hashtag “#JusticeForJussie” (which later became a rally in N.Y.C.) from fans and notable celebrities and activists such as Katy Perry, John Legend, Michael B. Jordan and Reverend Al Sharpton; to which I knew this “attack” was leaning towards a political direction when I seen a story that read “a modern-day lynching.”

Presidential hopefuls, Kamala Harris, D-Calif., and Cory Booker, D-N.J., trumpeted the eerie “modern-day lynching” phrase in a pair of tweets in hopes that such attack against the gay-first actor and others like him that the penalty should be posed as a federal crime and members in Congress should be behind their Anti-Lynching bill which was unanimously by the Senate in December, but has yet to be voted on by the House. Interestingly enough, Smollett’s homophobic story seems oddly coincidental during a time when you have two Obama-posing “rejects” declaring their bids for the white house on sentimental days for black America on Dr.Martin Luther King, Jr. Day (Harris), and the first day of Black History Month (Booker). There’s even photo’s of the Empire actor who had the unmitigated gull to coin himself, “The Gay Tupac”, during a concert after the attack, being pro Harris and Booker in several Justice for Victims rallies and LGBTQ and Women’s Right’s movements run by liberal Democrats. I bring up the political aspect of this Smollett charade now deemed a hoax is because even behind the anti-lynching legislation there might even be a deeper agenda called HR 2282, aka the “Equality Act.” This Act, again being backed by Harris and Booker, will amend the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to prohibit discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity in employment, housing, public accommodations, public education, federal funding, credit and the jury system. So in other words, the so-called Civil Rights Act that many black Americans marched for, died for, were Jim Crow segregated against, thrown in prison and actually LYNCHED for will have to take another seat at the proverbial back of the bus; and make room for those of the sexually confused crowd. It is no wonder why Martin Luther’s “Dream Speech” made him realize that it had become a nightmare then, and should be more frightening now.

In Smollett’s over zealous pursuit to bring awareness to victims of the LGBTQ community in his now FALSE tale of him being victimized by two homophobic racists (who were actually two paid Nigerian extras from the Empire series), Jussie has even further alienated himself and other black gays in an already divisive community. Think it not strange that Smollett would collaborate a hoax involving two racist white men feeding into the anti-Trump, alt-Right paradigm; when in all actuality the very same LGBTQ community he’s a part of, has its own racist and homophobic issues. Instead of comparing himself to the deceased rapper [Tupac] in an attempt to gain notoriety for a up-in-coming singing career, maybe he should have channeled Stonewall hero Marsha P. Johnson and spoke out about the racism black gays (especially black Transgenders) experience within the “Love not Hate” rainbow cabal. I mean, since Jussie wants to make up a fictitious hate crime story involving nooses to the dismay of our ancestors, why not deal with the real “hatred” within his own faction of sexual misfits? I guess that “Same Love” Macklemore rapped about about several years ago doesn’t always extend towards the end of the LGBTQ rainbow now does it?

I decided to wait until all of the crescendo of social media brouhaha or received to see if any apologies would be made not only by Smollett, but from the anti-straight black men coalition who tried to essentially “Kevin Hart” or bully, black men into what they perceived as not standing up for Jussie. In fact there was one limp-wrist clown who wrote a commentary for no Vibe Magazine entitled Op-Ed: Straight Black Men’s Silence On Jussie Smollet’s Homophobic And Racist Attack Is Dangerous, by Richy Rosario. Rosario, who states in the article he’s a 27-year-old gay Dominican man, said he has to pray before entering barbershops and that he’s “never felt supported by straight men to safely be his full self in front of them.” The frantic writer continues to divulge his inner feelings using emasculating dog whistles like “toxic masculinity” to subtly shame black (even though he includes brown) men as he argues:

“I don’t care how historically homophobic black culture can be. That will never be a valid excuse for one’s silence or ignorance. In Hollywood, music, politics and sports, there are tons of black men with influence who choose to turn a blind eye or “mind their business,” and it’s not helping anyone.”

I wonder after Rosario picked up his face from the floor, would he come out of the closet and apologize to us “cisgendered” straight black men for what many of us knew was a sham from the very onset. Rosario, and others of his ilk, have openly demonstrated not only their contempt for straight black men but if you’re not for us, then you’re against us and will quickly be labeled as “toxic” and a “homophobe.” The truth is, black men as a collective do not care how those of the LGBTQ mishmash crowd choose to identify themselves or what alternatives lifestyles they engage in; at least this brother doesn’t. However, in the same way you choose to live your life by labeling what you do privately, publicly, you cannot force (me) or other black men to agree with your lifestyle. When has it ever benefited black people to put their sexual identity first? It’s the same nonsensical quagmire black feminists have fell for since the days of agent Gloria Steinem and white feminism. Although Smollett -who faces 16 counts for filing a false police report and disorderly conduct- failed in his attempt at being the poster child for gay black victimization, however, he continues his innocence pleading not guilty following his arraignment in Cook County Circuit Court this past Thursday.

Whether you believe the actor’s story of events and it being staged from what the prosecutors are now calling is not really the crux of this post. There seems to be an ongoing “Trojan Horse” undertone found in many of these so-called “SJW’s” victim movements. For example, I was an ardent supporter (initially and obviously) of “Black Lives Matter” which sprang into action following the highly publicized death(s) of Trayvon Martin, Michael Brown and Eric Garner. Only to find out that not only is “Black Lives Matter” a paid opposition front group full of racial agitators and provocateurs, black hetero-normative or (that c-word again) cisgenders, are nothing more than propaganda to an otherwise LGBTQ, immigration agenda. Using the deaths of unarmed black males to generate media attention, cause social unrest, AND at the same time, eyeing political aspirations as if they could give a damn about the deaths of ‘black lives’ aforementioned above, is disgustingly disingenuous. This is why this Smollett situation wreaks of conspiratorial efforts gone awry in a ploy that seems too far fetched to use the excuse that he’s some “underpaid actor.” Time will only tell if the clout-chasing actor will really find out how “F’d Up” this world really is not as the fictional character Jamal Lyons, but as the non-fictional Jussie Smollett, a black man. Peace.

After a Slaying In Baton Rouge; Should Jesse Williams Be Fired Now?

July 6, 2016UncategorizedAlton Sterling Murder, Black America, Black Lives Matter, Black men, Jesse Williams, Louisiana Police, Police Brutalityjjermane80

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After delivering such a riveting message during last week’s BET Awards, Grey’s Anatomy star Jesse Williams went from a thunderous ovation from a crowd of his peers, to a week of receiving malicious criticism from Conservative cowards; who set up a spiteful petition to have him fired from ABC. See, Mr. Williams’ words wasn’t about his blackness, playing the victim card, or him being some spoiled overpaid actor using his platform to bash cops. Not even close. His words were about what took place in Baton Rouge, Louisiana last night when a young man identified as Alton Sterling, 37, was gunned down by some bloodthirsty cops. Eerie; however, but prophetic.

In an updated story from the Advocate: “Alton Sterling, a 37-year old man who sold CDs, was shot and killed by a Baton Rouge police officer Tuesday morning outside a convenience store on North Foster Drive after “some type of altercation” with two officers, officials said.

Baton Rouge police did not provide much information about what escalated the incident between the officers and Sterling or what prompted an officer to fire his weapon. A witness, however, described police as “aggressive” and said Sterling was armed but was not holding his gun or touching his pockets during the incident. Police later retrieved a gun from the man’s pocket, said the witness, shop owner Abdullah Muflahi.

Around 12:35 a.m., Baton Rouge police responded to the Triple S Food Mart at 2112 N. Foster Drive after an anonymous caller indicated that a man in a red shirt who was selling CDs outside the store pointed a gun at someone, telling them to leave the property, Baton Rouge Police Department spokesman Cpl. L’Jean McKneely said.

East Baton Rouge Parish Coroner William “Beau” Clark said the initial results of an autopsy performed Tuesday show Sterling died due to a homicide and suffered multiple — meaning more than two — gunshot wounds to the chest and back.” (http://theadvocate.com/news/16311988-77/report-one-baton-rouge-police-officer-involved-in-fatal-shooting-of-suspect-on-north-foster-drive)

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Then there was this…

In a petition started by Erin Smith on Change.Org, Smith accused Williams of a “racist, hate speech against law enforcement and white people at the BET Awards.” She also wasn’t fond of the show’s creator, Shondra Rhymes, accusing her of “condoning” his actions and even calling Ms. Rhymes a “hypocrite.” Here’s a small excerpt of what Smith wrote:

“Upon receiving a humanitarian award at the BET awards, Jesse Williams released a cascade of inappropriate, unprofessional and racist commentary against police officers and Caucasians. Had any one of his offensive words been said by any other race other than an African American, they would’ve been publicly shamed, fired from whatever job they had, lost endorsements, advertisers, etc…”

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Smith’s petition–a disgusting one to say the least–has over 18, 000 supporters, needing 25,000 signatures to achieve its ridiculous goal. People like Erin and TheBlaze Tomi Lahren, really don’t want to hear about any socio-political issues involving the Negro in this country. We should instead, not focus on race because if you do, I will pull out my conservative bias talking points and remind you who was the people who freed you from slavery. According to them, the subject of race can only be addressed when they control the narrative; which always reminds us what we’re not doing, should be doing, or what ‘they’ have done to help us.

RT.com has just released the names of the officers involved in the death of Alton Sterling: Blane Salamoni, 4-year veteran, and Howie Lake II, 3-year veteran. It has also been noted that one of the officers, Lake II, was involved in a prior police killing in December 2014, RT.com reports.

Prior to today, I must admit I was not a proponent of the Black Lives Matter movement; even after today, I will hold fast to my convictions about the movement. The only movement we as black people should only be a part of, are the ones which are not funded by white handlers. History teaches us from the Civil Rights Movement, when it was completely funded and controlled by white handlers, black folks as a collective received nothing from that movement. Unless you want to count retired or deceased Negro leaders, whose legacy left us singing spirituals, the DNC party, and no economy because we were satisfied with the white man liking us. However, even in the aftermath of this police execution, locals from the Baton Rouge area have flooded the streets in protest (which they should) being assisted by community leaders and organizers—while black America holds its breath waiting to breathe for justice.

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“What we’ve been doing is looking at the data and we know police somehow manage to deescalate, disarm, and not kill white people every day”--Jesse Williams

While I may not agree with Mr. Williams’ Black Lives Matter Movement or some of the sentiments he made during his compelling speech; however, we both agree our lives matter and we shouldn’t have to include “all lives” when historically and concurrently, all lives still aren’t created equal. Peace and love y’all.

‘Katpacalypse’ is Definitely Becoming More Fact than Fiction for Katt Williams

March 8, 2016UncategorizedBlack Community, Black men, Comedy, Katt Williamsjjermane80

If you would have told me my first blog post of the new year would have involved troubled comedian Katt Williams, I would told you I have better articles to write about. Instead, I sit here this morning in complete disbelief as the world is watching Katt Williams literally throw away a once promising stand-up career. Williams, 42, was recorded a few days ago on video getting the perm stomped out of him at a Beanie Sigel concert in Philadelphia, PA after Williams ran up on a member of Sigel’s entourage and threw what some are calling a “sucker punch.” This comes just after an incident he had in Gainseville, GA with a pool supply employee when Williams two-pieced the guy because Williams claimed he was called the N-word. After being arrested and charged with battery, video of Williams was leaked during his Conspiracy Tour in Atlanta of him calling fellow famed comedian Kevin Hart a “Hollywood Puppet” and challenging him to $5 million dollar battle. The Pimp Chronicles star later apologized for his remarks towards Hart during an interview with Big Tigger at Atlanta’s V-103 radio station; however, issued yet another challenge to another comedian, this year’s Oscar host Chris Rock.

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After the video surfaced of Williams looking like he was at an old school Brand Nubian concert (Punks Jump up To Get Beat Down), he instantly became a trending topic on Twitter receiving mixed reactions from fans and some hinting his career might be over. Even Katt himself posted a video to WorldStarHipHop, where spoke about taking “nothing but w’s” during the debacle in Philly and further speculated he might be retiring from stand-up comedy for good. Over the past several years, it has surely been a “Kattpacalypse” for Williams as he’s been known more his erratic onstage behavior, missed shows, various assaults, arrests and outlandish conspiracy theories. Once regarded as your comedian’s favorite comedian, Williams has become a tabloid magnet for controversy (ahem, TMZ) and cause celebre, leaving many wondering if Williams is mentally-ill or truly on that ‘stuff.’ With Williams currently still on his Conspiracy Tour, one can only wonder if the once considered comedic genius can actually finish his tour dates, and avoid any further altercations, arrests, and onstage debasement. All jokes aside, I hope who’s ever managing or around the embroiled star, gets Katt the help he needs instead of having the show must go on approach because Williams is definitely a “pimp down.” Peace y’all.

My Thoughts on Dr. Umar Johnson’s ‘Striptease’

June 22, 2015UncategorizedBlack Community, Black men, Black Women, Dr. Umar Johnson, Pan-Africanism, Pro-Black, Stripper Culturejjermane80

Before I begin this post, I must admit I am a modest supporter of Dr. Umar Johnson. Now, when I say that, I say it because I don’t agree with all of his ideological stances. I don’t believe in praying to the ancestors, all white people are devils, studying ancient Kemet, or calling each other “Kings and Queens.” The idea of having “knowledge of self” hasn’t really helped the Negro no more than prosperity pimps found in mega churches. I will say, however, just like those who actually study and follow the bible or the Christian faith, if you consider yourself as being a conscious person, Pan-Africanist, black Muslim, whatever! If it works for you AND it helps to the betterment of the black community, I have no problem. Now, in transitioning back to Dr. Johnson, the primary reason why I have followed his messages is because he’s the first person I’ve encountered who’s addressed not only the school to prison pipeline in regards to young black boys; but the mis-diagnosing, special education for monetary gain aspect as well. Unfortunately, when the leader or progenitor who prides himself as being the “Prince of Pan-Africanism,” a Garveyite, and who’s a direct descendant of Fredrick Douglass (a claim he makes), is found being involved with a stripper—scratch that—a so-called conscious stripper, it really speaks volumes.

I’ve heard all of the arguments like “it’s about the message not the man” or “he’s not married, he’s single so what’s the big deal etc.” and to be clear, no one is faulting him for having a sexual relationship. What he does behind closed doors is between him and whoever he’s involved with. However, when that person who prides herself as being an adult entertainer, aka a stripper, is the person you’re involved with and your name is Dr. Umar Johnson; Houston we have a problem. See, it goes like this: In many people’s eyes Umar is considered a person of high esteem and although still fairly young, some laud him as the new voice of black America—like it or not. A Certified School Psychologist and a Dr. of Clinical Psychology, Umar is sought out motivational speaker and tours endlessly across the nation teaching, exhorting, uplifting and challenges his audiences to become more active in their communities especially when it comes to childhood education. At the center of this controversy lies the proposed school, the Frederick Douglass & Marcus Garvey RBG International Leadership Academy (FDMG), that he’s currently raising money and receiving donations via a gofundme account. One can only assume the slanderous and relentless assertion of “fraud” has begun to taint the Dr.’s movement, fundraiser, and more importantly; his character.

The “conscious” stripper (a name she states Umar had given her) real name is Kym Ringgold. Along with being an adult entertainer, she also describes herself as a Lipsync artist and Pan-African activist; you know the typical pro-black jargon in conjunction with the liberation of our people. Apparently, this “conscious” woman has made it her mission in life to expose Dr. Johnson as being a liar stemming from The Roland Martin Radio Show, where Dr. Johnson was a fill in as a guest host for Martin. During the two hour show, the man who is known as being “unapologetically African,” was definitely unapologetic when he stated:

“I’m not sexually active; I’m celibate.”

-The Roland Martin Radio Show, May 6, 2015

Now in most Negroid circles, a man declaring himself as being celibate would render remarks of ridicule, ribbing, or in Negroid terminology suggest that “you don’t have no game.” But remember, this is Dr. Umar Johnson we’re talking about here. Such an attainment of abstinence for any length of time would have been commendable; primarily because he has a pretty sizable female following. Nevertheless, Ms. Conscious let everyone know in an ongoing barrage of tweets, that Dr. Johnson was being anything else but celibate. Let’s just say the conscious aka pro-black community suffered a hit tantamount of when Karrine Steffens wrote her New York Times bestselling book “Confessions of a Video Vixen.”

Social media has allowed people to express themselves in a bevy of ways. It has allowed the common man to film and upload significant events, celebrations, comedic flare, intimate moments and unfortunate tragedies. However, it has also become the place for juvenile debasement, soft porn, social depravity, ghetto buffoonery, violence, and online harassment called trolling. In case with Ringgold and Johnson, one must decipher if this is really about exposing Dr. Johnson or an attempt for social media fame? Would it be farfetched to say she got tired of Umar’s sexual demands so she decided to expose him as being nothing more than your typical “thirsty” Negro? Let us think for second here, the only reason why this is a story at all is because of her adult profession. Put aside the fact she claims to be conscious, it’s because of the word “stripper” that black folks have become fixated with this story hands down. Not to mention Ms. Conscious is very easy on the eyes; ahem.

I am no way trying to belittle Ms. Ringgold nor excusing Dr. Johnson for his private escapade gone public by way Twitter and Instagram. In my opinion, this is more than about him just “having sex” with someone; it’s speaks volumes to this stripper culture that has become so embedded within the black community that even a sista who considers herself conscious; thinks there’s nothing wrong with being both openly. I started to compared it to a born-again Christian woman claiming to love the Lord while still a stripper, but that analogy is actually a reality by way of Latascha Emanuel; who conducts bible studies nearly bare chested; and she claims to a MINISTER! Even though Ms. Emanuel states she’s an ex-stripper, however, judging by the subtle nudity in her videos, let’s just say she still has a long, long, long, way to go. But as much as many faithful followers of Umar would love to point to big, bad “white supremacy” and deem this woman an agent sent by the government (side eye); this just lets you know that there’s a problem with the leadership and the followers. Much like Negro church congregants institutionalized by religious rituals, denominations, and clerical hierarchy; the worship of man has bewitched many who follow the leaders of the conscious community and Dr. Umar is no exception.

I really couldn’t tell you what Ms. Ringgold’s motives were for exposing Dr. Johnson no more than knowing why he continued having sexual dealings with her after he found out she was a stripper. However, what I can conclude is that Dr. Johnson: “You made eh mistake breh.” I understand nobody’s perfect, we have our vices, and we’re infallible beings, I get all of that. But calling your accuser a “maggot” and “a tramp disguised as a Queen,” is not a good look to your fellow “Kings and Queens.” Hopefully Dr. Johnson will provide a rueful public apology to his loyal supporters and followers; while seeking guidance from his elders (or how they say The Elders, lol). As far as him calling Ms. Ringgold a “conscious stripper” goes; one can only hope for Dr. Johnson’s sake that there’s no other “Karrine’s” out there who might be more concerned with exposing him for the attention they can garner and social media likes—rather than for him misleading his supporters for living a double life. Peace.

With Roger Goddell’s New Rule, Ray Rice & Adrian Peterson; Will African-American NFL Athletes Become a Bigger Target of Aggressive Victims?

September 18, 2014UncategorizedBlack Athletes, Black men, Domestic Violence, ESPN, Feminism, NFLjjermane80

Don’t think for one second you’ve misread the title of this article incorrectly Ladies and Gentlemen. It would also be in your best interest not to misinterpret what you are about to read. I was actually going to release this article a few weeks ago in response to the NFL’s new domestic violence policy; however, in lieu of what has transpired last week with now former Baltimore Raven’s running back, Ray Rice and his wife, Janay Rice—and the NFL Commissioner Roger Goddell—I had to go back to the drawing board. This incident not only reminded America on how truly dehumanizing domestic violence really is; rather, when it comes to having an honest discussion about domestic violence; as a nation, it is still a one-side issue. Millions watched as the TMZ video went viral in a matter of hours on this past Monday showing the graphic elevator confrontation between Ray and his then fiancé, Janay Palmer (since married). Almost immediately it was trending all over social media (and still is), press, radio, local and national news as it became not just news, but breaking news interrupting several televised programs. The video was so huge; it even drew the attention of the certain congressmen down in Washington, D.C. The court of public opinion was already disgusted with the original ruling of a 2-game suspension for the now troubled running back, Ray Rice. But after TMZ, (which is a celebrity gossip magazine for crying out loud) was able to get a hold of the footage that Commissioner Roger Goddell seemingly couldn’t; the uproar for the dismissal of Rice—and now Goddell—grew exponentially. With domestic violence and sexual assault now taking precedent over the actual NFL games themselves; you would think the victim in all of this—Janay Rice—all of sudden became the unofficial voice for domestic violence victims everywhere. Instead, Janay stuns all domestic violence advocates and supporters with a startling message from her Instagram account in defense of her husband.

Since the disturbing video of Ray Rice was released nearly two weeks ago, critics ranging from sports reporters, pundits, and most notably the National Organization for Women otherwise known as N.O.W., have all but demanded Roger Goddell’s head on a silver platter insisting his resignation immediately. This also comes in light of new developments reported by the Associated Press that NFL Headquarters was in fact aware of the full Ray Rice video leaked by TMZ last Monday. While Goddell maintains his innocence, the league has decided to hire former FBI director Robert S. Mueller III, to handle an independent investigation to see if indeed Commissioner Goddell knew about the entirety of tape prior to last Monday. The NFL is now facing immense scrutiny for allowing San Francisco 49ers defensive end, Ray McDonald and Carolina Panthers defensive end, Greg Hardy, to play in their season openers while McDonald hasn’t been charged in his domestic violence altercation; however, Hardy was charged in his as of July this year. The Panthers have since placed Hardy on the “exempt list” pending Hardy’s appeal in his case involving his ex-girlfriend. Whew, can we finally say we are ready for some football, right? “Not so fast my friend!” As popular commentator of ESPN’s College Game Day, Lee Corso would utter. As week two approached, the league was hit with yet another blow involving one of its most marketable superstars. Minnesota Vikings star running back, Adrian Peterson, was indicted on felony child abuse charges stemming from a whipping in which Peterson disciplined his son with tree branch; commonly known to black folks as a switch. At first, the Vikings stood behind their all-pro running back; but when advertisers such as Nike, started to back off of Peterson, the Vikings soon joined the party. There also seems to be yet another allegation of child abuse from another one of Peterson’s baby mother’s as well. But for now, the all-pro running back has been placed on the exempt list as well pending his sentencing for the child abuse charges that occurred in 2013.

Now with the media pressure at an all-time high due to Peterson’s child abuse charges, Goddell, (feeling obliged from sponsors such as McDonald’s, Visa, Anheuser-Busch and Fed Ex) was again forced to react. Even after he modified the league’s domestic violence policy, the issue of child abuse (which is also included in the domestic violence policy btw) has lit a fire across America in regards to what is and what isn’t an appropriate way to discipline your children. Reports say Peterson has acknowledged his mistakes but feels he has done nothing wrong due to the fact of it was how he was raised. With the NFL’s most prolific running back now indefinitely sidelined, Goddell tried to ingratiate himself among his female fanbase by hiring a distinguished group of women to oversee the affairs in the league involving domestic violence and sexual assault. Among the accomplished group of women Lisa Friel, Jane Randel, and Rita Smith; the most noteworthy is former White House Official Cynthia C. Hogan, naming her Senior Vice President of Public Policy and Government Affairs. While this may be an astronomical leap for the league for allowing a woman’s voice to be heard in a significant way involving domestic violence and off the field issues; we must remember one thing: the league and its player’s is overwhelmingly 66% black. And with the league’s attempt to solve its domestic violence issue; it left out an important demographic of people that suits the narrative: the black woman.

When it comes to the African-American community, sadly black women experience intimate partner violence (IPV) rates 35% higher than their white counterparts and 2.5 times the rate of men and other races. Yet when the NFL chose to elect female authoritative voices they disregarded the voice that impacts most of the league’s players the most. The group called “The Black Woman’s Roundtable,” has expressed its frustration with not including an African-American woman’s voice in the NFL’s attempt to clean up violence towards women as ABC News reports:

“However, your lack of inclusion of women of color, especially black women who are disproportionately impacted by domestic violence and sexual assault; and the fact that over 66% of the NFL players are made up of African-Americans, is unacceptable..”

Not allowing an African-American voice to an apparent African-American issue (as the liberal media is propagandizing it) is utterly disrespectful knowing that it was an African-American woman–Janay Rice–who was at the fore front of this whole debacle. Unfortunately, this maybe the point at which some African-American readers may vehemently disagree with me; but on behalf of many ‘brotha’s’ out there who love our sista’s I would be remised if I didn’t mention the aggressive and abusive tendencies many African-American women engage in when it comes to our relationships. This is in no way an excuse for black men to go oops upside a black woman’s head; however, it’s also not an excuse for black women to go carte blanche on a black man in the midst of a domestic dispute either. I’m only speaking from the black perspective because I’ve seen an abundance of overly aggressive black women not only confront or verbally abuse their men, but physically abuse them as well. This is the core of my problem with this whole ‘domestic violence’ issue—especially–when it comes to the lack of culpability that black women play when it comes to domestic disputes. What seems to be the liberal media’s attempt to remind America that black men are nothing more “brutes and thugs,” you have black women (and black men) television personalities being propagated as staunch advocates against domestic violence and child abuse—while putting the guilty under the bus. Unfortunately, just like Ferguson, we as a community (so-called) only get outraged when the predominately white media is involved with a societal epidemic that not only affects people humanistically; but it took a black face (Ray Rice) to make the problem germane.

Please don’t get it twisted because I whole-heartily agree that if a man abuses a woman, he should be punished as applicable to law. However, I am NOT blind to the facts that many of our women are just as abusive in the relationships they encounter as well. See, a month and a half ago, Stephen A. Smith tried to balance out this issue over the democrat controlled airwaves of ESPN on his show called First Take. Only to no avail due to a colleague of his (Michelle Beadle) taking to Twitter venting her displeasure with Smith’s comments involving the word “provocation,” Even with all of the hoopla turned importance surrounding domestic violence, it continues to be a one-sided issue; which once again portrays women as weak, innocent victims and men as out of control brutes.. Some of y’all may not like my assertion about this dilemma (which domestic violence is important btw), but all I see is a political, feminist narrative being pushed for women to have just as much as a voice (and power) in what is called America’s favorite sport, pro-football; in what they call a bridging of the gap when it comes to gender equality. Simply stated, they want their voice to count.

While gender equality is not the reason why I did this article, the promotion of black men being public enemy number one is. Trust me; I’m not excusing any abuser of women and or of children. However, what I won’t put up with or stand for, is allowing the media to tell black people not only how to raise our children; but to propagandize and leave an impression that black men are not only a menace to society; but a threat to his family as well. Just remember how much the black athlete is perused even after he’s paid for his crime a la Michael Vick (who is still berated by apparent animal rights activists). Could you imagine if Rice or Peterson were to return to the league next year? Even while I’m finishing this article, there have been yet two more NFL athletes who have been brought to the media’s attention involving domestic violence: the Chicago Bear’s wide receiver, Brandon Marshall (on an old charge btw) and Arizona Cardinal’s running back, Johnathan Dwyer.

So this leads me to my most arguable, controversial, and contentious question yet. Will women (specifically black women) use not only Goddell’s new rule as leverage against African-American football players; but with the help of feminist organizations such as N.O.W. and the women involved with domestic violence and sexual assaults for the league—as a way to control not just football players, but to send an eerie message to men in general? Please understand my intent is not to point the finger, but to call attention to what could happen when we give a group of people too much power. Or maybe I should just remain naïve because with the help of feminist organizations maybe they will finally bring men and women together to further better an egalitarian in pro football.

There’s just one problem; I’m no fool.

Fortunately, there is a phrase that says, “Absolute power corrupts absolutely,” so I believe not only black players will be targeted and extorted by the likes of so-called woman advocates (many who are really feminist) like Gloria Allred; but I’m reminded of a crooked system that’s already used to screw men in general.

And it’s administered through the family court system.

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How HALLMARK Reminds Black Fathers Every Year Who’s Really “Appreciated.”

June 20, 2014UncategorizedBlack Family, Black men, Father's Day, Hallmark, Single Mothersjjermane80

“I’m wishing all of the Fathers and single Mothers doing it by themselves; Happy Father’s Day.”-Anonymous

Now you would think this line came from a scene straight out of a Tyler Perry movie called Father’s Day: Madea’s Revenge. I mean no other day of national celebration becomes of lesser importance than the day dedicated to fathers; correction, black fathers. This isn’t Hollywood and I’m not trying out for the role of the “Angry Blackman,” but every single year black Fathers are reminded who’s really ‘appreciated’ in the homes of Black America. Nothing further illustrates this point than the greeting card capital Hallmark and its preeminent, Afrocentric, Mahogany Card Collection. Hallmark’s Mahogany Card’s began around 1987 (according to their Facebook page) to provide African-Americans the most relevant greeting card and connecting products in the marketplace. Their company overview states:

The Mahogany Brand is…
· Candid not contrived
· Authentic not stereotypical
· Hopeful not idealized
· Heartfelt not melodramatic
· Vibrant not showy
· Bold not brash
· Spiritual not preachy
· Rhythmic not “sing song”
· Expressive not excessive
· Uplifting not lofty (www.facebook.com/MAHOGANY/info)

Before I go any further, I would like to thank Hallmark for acknowledging the African-American culture, history and experience. The contributors to the Mahogany Collection (who are black) are only coming from their own experiences and perspectives as African-Americans themselves. Keion Jackson, Senior Writer of the Mahogany Collection, states this on the website:

“Mahogany is a celebration of Black culture: the strong faith, the love for Big Mama, the spirit of survival and cool. I count it a privilege to contribute to such a strong tradition.”

(http://www.hallmark.com/mahogany/)

Now I could very well just stop right there and say “AH-HA, NO MENTION OF FATHERS!!” However, I’m going to preface my comments by saying this: the black family is dead or it’s in critical condition to say the least. I know the destruction of the nuclear family as a whole has been under attack for some time; however, I’m specifically dealing with black families because we’re the only culture who overtly acknowledges mothers on Father’s Day. Yes, the Mahogany Collection has cards dedicated to fathers on Mother’s Day as well but let’s be honest people; when’s the last time you seen a conglomerate of fathers (on a micro level) really get props on Mother’s Day? It is an indictment to the African-American community because we are the only culture that lacks strong male leadership in our homes and many of our women don’t see a problem with it. You’ll often hear “pro blacks” say “We came from Kings and Queens,” well, if that’s your logic then where is it now? I mean, king and queen denote family and it also promotes Headship and leadership. Hello patriarchy!! I understand slavery had a devastating effect on American blacks here in the states. Although slavery was “allegedly” abolished after the Civil War; however, the Reconstruction Era only saw a continuation of racial white supremacy towards African-Americans. So in spite of the lynchings, the murders, the disenfranchisement and discrimination; black families STILL stuck together. It wasn’t until the 1960’s and Lyndon B. Johnson’s “Great Society” is where we see the exodus of black fathers in exchange for government benefits. Thus the head of household went from male to female.

These days the normality of single parenthood has been celebrated and lauded when it comes to black mothers; but in contrast, black fathers have often been labeled trifling, trivial, insignificant and irrelevant. Although there is some truth when it comes to those ilk’s of black men, however, there is a counterproductive movement in which black fathers have become significantly more involved in the raising of their children. Just last December, there was a federal survey conducted by the National Center of Health and Statistics, which basically concludes that when it comes to fathering children, black fathers were no different than fathers from other races. To see the report, go the link at (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf).

So why did I say that the black family is in critical condition? Because we continue to oppress and neglect the importance of the progenitor: the black father. For every black woman who boasts on a day dedicated to father’s that she’s both “Mom and Dad,” further perpetuates the stereotype that black fathers (such as myself) am trying to rid. The Black Church has also played a major role in the acknowledgement of black mothers on Father’s Day as well. Understandably so seeing that the majority of its congregants are black women, however, it is still no excuse. It’s amazing that these women can come together and support their so-called “Spiritual Fathers,” but are absent when it comes to the natural ones (this is a future blog I’m working on btw). Outside of the church, themselves or when it comes to violence against their own sons; rarely do you see black women organize support groups that target the issues involving black men.

The purpose of this blog is NOT to demean, degrade or disrespect black women. It is, however, a blog that will hopefully bring attention certain level of dysfunction in the black community. Think about it. You actually have scores black men who think it’s some badge of honor to grow up without knowing their own father! Again, we can all agree that there are some horrible, irresponsible brothers out here. However, there are also some vindictive, vengeful, controlling women as well who use the child as a pawn to get back at the father by keeping his kid away-and using our lovely judicial system to do it. But alas, this post might never reach the people at Hallmark or the women and men who see nothing wrong with celebrating black mothers on a day dedicated to fathers. This blog isn’t just about some Mahogany Card Collection, but an attitude that is fueled by the independent feminist mantra that has become embedded in our community by these words, “I don’t need a man.” With the element of shame and accountability thrown out the window; the black woman can make a career out of procreating with different men and our government rewards her. Now if a father does that, well, let’s just say the media and those same women who buy Father’s Day cards for themselves, shout themselves out of social media and the government who protects them; knows exactly what happens to “those” fathers. But seriously, until we start to have a mutual respect for one another and become a team when it comes to the parenting aspect in the black family dynamic; our legacies will continue to be in the hands of a system that never really wanted to see the African-American family reach its zenith (together) in the first place. Let’s just see if the individual’s at the Mahogany Collection in Hallmark makes a holiday card dedicated to that. Peace.

The Black Male Flaw: How Black Men Use Women as a Barometer for Manhood.

May 29, 2014UncategorizedBlack Culture, Black men, Black Womenjjermane80

Allow me to reminisce for a second.

There was a time when I was in elementary school when me and other young black males would instigate or get into a fight about some of the most ridiculous of things. Yes, we would get upset or agitated over name calling or if we thought you were stupid; even if you wore clothes that were considered shabby. We pretty much got into rumblings over normal things kids would argue and scuffle over. Yet there was another level of stupidity we would contend for and it included a stick as a prop. So much so if the opponent knocked off the stick (which was placed on your shoulder by others), it was on! And what was this scenario that caused so much conflict and violence you ask?

“Yo Mama.”

This would go on to be the staple for many young black men and it would also become the black woman’s disrespect card that is often pulled. Brothers, tell me if this sounds familiar.

“You ain’t nothing but a Mama’s boy.”

Now with this being the premise, not just for me but other black men, it’s no wonder why we think being a ladies man, a player, or a down right (pseudo) pimp reigns supreme in the minds of many black men. Most of us were raised by single mothers and even if she got married or had so-called step-fathers(s) around; black boys always had the duty to defend their mother. Ironically, our fathers became the blaxploitation film stars, the rappers, the drug dealers and the hustlers. And what did they glamorize or was braggadocios about the most? How much women they had or conquered. Just ask yourself black men, do you or do you know someone you kick it with that always boasts about how many women they knocked off or how many they could pimp? I understand having this mentality when you’re a young man and all; but when you get to your 30’s, 40’s and 50’s are you still keeping up with so-called notches on your belt? If your theme song is “I Don’t Know What You Heard About Me…” from rapper 50 Cent or you still think you’re still Goldie from the movie “The Mack,” then women have epitomized your manhood.

I understand we as men are hunters and conquerors by nature; I get that. But for the most part, however, we have taken our twisted adoration about our Mothers (when used correctly can be healthy btw) and translated it into fighting and defending black women that we aren’t even married to. I myself have been guilty of this absurdity when I was younger defending black women when most of the times; they were in the wrong. Think about it. Most fights (especially in clubs) are over some scantily clad dressed black woman. Even in our relationships, I understand men should take up for a woman to a certain degree; however, it should never be to the extent where physical harm is involved unless she’s your wife. Black women also play a part in this because they often perpetuate these situations by testing our manhood. Again, see if this sounds familiar.

“Oh, so you gonna let him (or them) talk to me that way, for real though? What’s wrong with you? Oh, so you some kind of punk now?”

I kept it clean only because we know often times expletives are often used in the exchange of the word punk.

Black men must understand that some black women aren’t worth saving; (say it again) especially if she’s not your wife!! We put and importance on how many women we can sleep with (or at least lie about how many we sleep with) like it’s some badge of honor that makes us men. I personally know men who’s in their 50’s who still brag about their feminine “escapades” and would clown you if you don’t have something similar or give don’t props to it.

Some say this was something “conditioned” during slavery because the black male was used in breeding. I would agree, however, but that reasoning or theory is not complete. Black people have had a history of worshiping or exalting our reproductive organs and if you don’t believe me check out the story of Nimrod and a plethora of others. The Americanized black, however, has had this abnormal affair with idolizing our mothers and as a result; we define our manhood from the eyes of a woman. Think about it. How come black women can tell us what a “real” man is better than a black man? Furthermore, ask the average black man what a real man is? I will guarantee you it will sound like it’s from a black woman’s perspective or the stereotypes that’s permeated from the media, entertainment, and our community in general. I understand there are some literal deadbeats out there who have children for, whatever the reason, don’t want to be involved in their children’s lives. But to be honest, based off the over 70% black single parent homes, you can’t conclude that over 70% of black men are horrible Fathers (another story for another blog). Now I know if there’s a black man reading this he will probably ask, “Then why don’t you tell me what’s a real black man?” My brother, I could only give my honest opinion about what a real black man is. However, it’s not in conjunction with the aforementioned things I addressed earlier. Black men should prioritize on becoming a husband and a Father more than becoming your typical player. We as African–Americans love the church, but hate reading the bible; which would do us well especially when it comes to reading Proverbs 31. You know that chapter in the bible that makes black women feel good, yet many fail to live up too. Anyways, black men please stop letting “that thing, that thing, that thiiiing,” between a black woman’s legs define you. Maybe Lauryn Hill was trying to give a hidden message in her song Doo-Wop (That Thing).

Maybe it didn’t just apply to the women fellas.

Peace and Love.